Diversity is indeed one of the most beautiful aspects of our society. However, it does come with great responsibility to be shared by all. The majority of us, as adults, live and work with people from all walks of life. Our children are no exception. Not only do they need to be aware of all the different cultures, races, and beliefs of the world around them, but it is also necessary to teach them the importance of respecting these differences and recognizing the beauty that such diversity creates.
Parents are often a bit hesitant to talk with their children about such a touchy subject. Children are very impressionable and tend to take what trusted adults say at face value. Parents who have not been trained or advised in cultural competence themselves may feel uncomfortable facilitating such an important conversation. Here are a few tips and strategies that can be followed in provided the proper atmosphere and information for the occasion.
Do not be afraid to talk openly and honestly with your child about racial and cultural differences. Children are not totally oblivious to the fact that there are people around them who may or may not share their own physical characteristics. Anyone who has spent time witnessing the curiosity of child knows that questions will arise. Questions that will require a delicate answer. Treating the subject as if it is too taboo to discuss will only open the door for misconceptions. This in itself can lead to prejudices.
Be prepared to lead by example. Children are constantly watching our reactions and mirroring what they see. As parents, it is important to be very mindful in recognizing and pointing out generalizations and stereotypes that exist even in our own thinking. It is all too easy to continue a certain pattern of thinking when we have not sought opportunities to broaden our own minds. Seek some avenues of obtaining a higher level of cultural competence as an adult. Many agencies and institutions offer training in cultural competence, but learning does not have to be formal. There is a wealth of valid information available on cultural and racial differences on the web and at your local library.
Look for teachable moments. Introduce cultural differences to your child in a way that sparks their interest and attention. Teach them that learning and experiencing other cultures can be fun and exciting. It is not hard to find cultural activities that are open to the public throughout the year. Attending cultural festivals and parades are great opportunities to answer your child's questions in a comfortable and enjoyable atmosphere.
Finally, and most importantly, keep the lines of communication open. Continue to stay connected with your child on the topic of cultural and racial differences. As children become older and more aware of prejudices and stereotypes, they tend to become more hesitant about expressing their thoughts and feelings on the subject. Provide a safe environment where these thoughts can be discussed openly and lovingly. This will give you the opportunity to guide them as they develop their own sense of self and identity as well as a respect and appreciation for that of others.
It is important, however, to note that there is not just one prescription for helping your child to appreciate the cultural differences around them. The key is to keep an open mind when seeking opportunities to teach children about cultural acceptance as well as opportunities to practice what they have learned.